What if my wife could not Vote?

It is my intention that this Blog is a place to exchange ideas and learn from each other. Todays post is from a friend who wished to remain anonymous. Since it is very timely, we will respect that request.

While watching the Republican National Convention last night, I appreciated the First Lady’s perspective.  First—her simple human story of fleeing oppression, for freedom.  Communist oppression, for American freedom.  

And then as she touched on the anniversary of the 19th Amendment, I considered my wife.  I considered all free women of the world—especially all lucky enough to live in the most-free country in the world.  

My wife is very smart.  And independent.  And beautiful.  She does not speak as many languages as Mrs. Trump, but her heart is every bit as capacious.  

My wife’s heritage is also Eastern-bloc, a milder version with Czech roots, but she was born and raised here in the free state of Kansas.  The 19th Amendment recognition made me consider—my wife has never felt diminished because of her gender.  But what if she was not afforded the natural right to her voice?  What if she couldn’t vote?  

She would not be the same person she is today.  And that simple thought crushes me.  What if her voice were suppressed?  How would she temper her opinions?  

How dehumanizing.  

And then I realized she faces that dehumanization every day.  My smart, independent-minded, devoted wife is a Republican.  She cannot wait to vote again this November, for freedom, equality, faith and opportunity.  But because of that, her freedom of speech (the First Amendment, by the way) has been trod upon.  Rudely.  Every day, lately.  

I yearn for a return to a more civil time.  A more civil time, when voters, citizens, neighbors can disagree.  But can do so without hate.  

Author’s name withheld for personal reasons. 

…that’s 30 for today.

6 thoughts on “What if my wife could not Vote?

  1. I am saddened that your wife or anyone feels dehumanized for voicing her political opinions. The rudeness and bullying that has become a regular part of our American rhetoric is unacceptable. We must ALL stand up for the right to engage in civil discourse. While it is tempting to respond to others who are cruelly expressing themselves in a like manner – it is much more empowering to stop, listen, think, and then to use our personal power of words to express our opinions. WE ALL WANT THE SAME THING – a bright and healthy future for the next generation! Where we may disagree is how to achieve that future.


  2. That Blog was really good until I read the name is withheld for personal reasons! We know who wrote it, anyway. HA!

    I would say that I am also married to a smart and beautiful wife! My wife also has excellent taste in husbands! She has Swedish heritage which also means that there are many times that her golf drive is longer than mine!
    I would also have to mention my mother who was nearly a saint in many ways….she led me to a deep and personal faith and love for all.

    My mother or my wife would not be able to fully reach their potential and beyond without equal opportunity in life. Thank God for our country. And I trust that this year’s presidential election will set a record of total votes.

    Our four children and three grandchildren will have a challenging future especially if everyone, including all ethnic female and male citizens, cannot vote with confidence that their voices will be heard.

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  3. My reply to this took some time to think about as the anonymous writer connects political beliefs with family and gender. The celebration of the 19th Amendment is well worth all the attention it can receive if it weren’t for the fact that the legislation failed to include ALL women. If women of color had been allowed to vote in 1920 and if the suppression of voting rights hadn’t continued from then even until now, celebrating the 19th would be so much sweeter. My wife’s heritage included a Civil War era doctor who was murdered for his pro-Northern beliefs as he practiced medicine in bloody Missouri. Her ancestors of that generation lost everything and escaped oppression in a post-war culture that disallowed her female ancestors the right to vote and continued to suppress gender equality for decades beyond. As a young college student, I experienced the violence of the 60s when attempts were made to register voters, especially in the South, and resulted in the Voting Rights Act of 1965. We are witnessing voter suppression tactics being used today. I refuse to believe that those actions are about giving freedom to ALL.


    1. Thank you Harold for your thoughtful and enlightening response. Every one of us must remember that our opinions are often clouded by our limited knowledge and understanding of the situation. While we do what we can to broaden our perspective let us keep in mind that there are many facets to the same diamond – even in the rough. Let us work together to be sure that each and every citizen is allowed and encouraged to vote.


      1. Yes! I am all in for everyone voting and having the opportunity to vote. My first presidential election in 1968 found me in basic training far from home, but I was determined to vote and haven’t missed an election. I voted absentee ballot then which required that the company commander sign the ballot. Since he didn’t get to see for whom I voted and I was sitting in as a temp in the company orderly room using my typing skills and he and I became acquainted, he asked for whom I voted. I refused to tell him which prompted him to order that I do 50 pushups. We both laughed through every one of them! I didn’t include in my first reply above my own heritage which, like my wife’s, is totally European. My ancestor left a small village in what is now Switzerland and moved to the Alsace-Lorraine area in what is now France. His son left there in the mid-1600s to escape persecution. He was a Huguenot with religious beliefs different than the predominant Catholic church and landed in Pennsylvania. I am certain Heinrich Frey stood up for his beliefs in having a say in what governed him and his family. Another ancestor line, my great grandfather (Scottish), left Seneca Falls, NY to join the New York Militia in the Civil War. Seneca Falls was the site of the 1848 Convention that produced the Declaration of Rights and Sentiments that listed women’s grievances and demands regarding representation. My great grandfather strongly supported that movement and the rights of all people. He lived long enough (1924) to witness the 19th Amendment and took advantage of land development by claiming a stake in Greenleaf, KS in Wasington County. I often think of these ancestors when issues of voter repression are raised. I served in the Vietnam War and am angered that some choose to object to the protests that have sprung up around the country. My great grandfather was wounded at Chancellorsville defending our Union. Regardless of political beliefs, our Constitution guarantees the rights we should never take for granted.


  4. To the author of the original post here. It is great that women have freedom to vote their conscience. This includes the woman to whom you are married. I have to wonder the logic, though, of voting for a man (I presume she is a fan of Trump) who has a speaker at his convention who wants one vote per family, with the male head of household as the final word. The logic of a woman having the freedom to vote her freedoms away…makes no sense. As a single woman without children, I am fiercely independent and I don’t need a man to run my life. I love the men in my life. though. But I don’t want anyone else voting my rights away. So where does that leave us? My wish is that the rules of society are more lax than rigid, allowing everyone to live as they choose.


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